If the road to hell is paved with good intentions, here’s how you pave your road.
You get sick of feeling overwhelmed, muster up some energy, or panic, and make a change.
Instantly, you feel relief. Hope begins to glimmer on the horizon. You begin to feel better, and your energy levels rise.
So you tackle a whole heap of other changes. But now, you have so many balls in the air, that you get overwhelmed. And then, all the changes fall over.
And you become really discouraged. You think “What’s the use?” You feel hopeless, like no matter what you do, it doesn’t work out. You blame yourself. Your energy levels drop. You let things slide and then chaos looms.
Something important goes wrong. Now you feel panic. So you make a change …
You need something to bump this cycle out of the rut. A tiny experience of success is all it takes. Just a small feeling of achievement, a tiny step towards looking after yourself, and your whole world begins to shift.
Here’s how to take it slowly, and make tiny changes that stick. To create a new way of being that becomes your natural state.
You need this new process. Make a tiny change. So tiny, it’s laughable. In fact, you should think to yourself “THAT won’t make any difference.” This way, the stakes are low. You’re not stringing yourself onto the line.
Now, gently observe the result. How does this change feel? Do you feel better? Take some time to enjoy feeling better. Talk to me about feeling better. Talk to us all at the More Fun for Mom FB group about feeling better. Compare notes. Gloat. Brag a little. You’re among friends.
And the hardest part? This really sorts out the women from the girls.
Make NO MORE changes for at least two weeks. Seriously. This weeny wee change needs a chance to send down roots, to get stable, to become the new ‘normal’. Time for you to try and see what happens when you stop. So you’ve got more data. You’ve proven to yourself that it works.
Then, make a second, tiny change. And away you go. Keep reading to see how it all works.